Making Relationships Work
Watched an interesting movie called “Love Actually” recently. It’s an interesting movie in the sense it tries to prove that love does exist in this world no matter what may be seen from the outset. It was a pretty good analysis of relationships.
Taliking about relationships though I am still a novice (meaning being married for only a short period of time, still) I have a few ideas about making relationships work.
Like every task we do in life, relationships also require some work put into them. When you fall in love, when the relationship is still new, you see everything in a new light and you are too exitied to be thinking about the serious side of it. You are just enjoying the moment and the bliss of the events that are happening around you.
But once you mature in the relationship, over time people become complacent about the relationship and allow the relationship to take care of itself. But believe me, that is the last thing that you need to do. If you need your relationship to work, you need to work ON your relationship.
A relationship is all about adopting to the fact that your life is being shared with another. In that sense, you need to be mindful about the other person.
You will no longer be able to do all the things that you were doing earlier. The other persons tastes, opinions and ideas need to be considered as well. If you are trying to live your life just like earlier and if your partner does the same, you are headed for disaster.
One thing that I realized after getting married is that my life will never be the same. And I welcomed the change in my life. I liked the fact that now I have a person to share an opinion permanantly. I loved the fact that now there’s a pesont that I need to take care of!
I cannot and will not just stand by and allow my marriage to just go on. I want everyday to be special. And I am willing to put in the work requried for that. I am trying to renew the roamance everyday! I am determined to not to take her for granted!
You can make any relationship work, if you give the other person the due consideration and put an effort to make it work. Just tell your partner how you feel about her. You know that she knows it, but I’m sure she wont mind hearing it again. If you need space, give her some space as well. But dont think for a moment that you are on your own. So, be considerate about her feeligns as well. And you will have a happy life together!